69. You're sabotaging yourself...


You're sabotaging yourself...

"They don't want me there..."

"I'll be annoying them..."

"That's too much for them..."

"They wont like me if I do that..."

Just for one second,

Think back on a time where someone has said to you

"I was going to do this but I didn't want to annoy you"

You likely responded with

"Don't be silly, that wouldn't have annoyed me at all"

People want the real you.

So where does this underlying doubt come from?

Past conditioning.

Maybe someone who wasn't the right fit for your life has said this to you before?

Maybe a family member?

Maybe a story from a friend?

Whatever the reason,

It's likely due to a past incident,

which included a highly charged emotion,

and has now embedded itself inside you.

So whenever you feel low or down,

and your only logical explanation is to place the same narrative into this new story, with this new person.

Know that what's really going on behind the scenes is 👇

You subconsciously believe that by anticipating the event to repeat,

you can avoid it.

Let me give you the secret...

By attempting to anticipating it,

You are creating it,

Because you are no longer acting as yourself.

People want you,

Don't try to protect yourself from past hurt.

Acknowledge that it hurt,

and know now,

people love you for exactly who you are.

Don't change because of an old emotion

Work with it,

Feel it,

Replace it and move on stronger.

I'll see you tomorrow

Jake.

Ps. you can only ever be yourself, if you pretend otherwise, it will inevitably fall apart. You cannot play a character forever, and if you do... You're likely not really living a complete life

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